—the reason for which something is done or created; the intention behind an action

“Why am I here—what am I designed to do?”

Purpose is the underlying motivation or driving force behind our actions and existence. It answers, “Why am I here, and what am I meant to accomplish?” A lack of purpose can lead to deep confusion and persistent frustration for men and boys without fathers. Without a clear sense of direction, it becomes difficult to envision a meaningful future or pursue personal growth. This absence can leave a man feeling lost, disconnected, and unfulfilled. Over time, living without purpose can cause one’s life to feel increasingly chaotic and empty. Purpose provides clarity, hope, and a sense of destiny, guiding individuals toward a more meaningful and rewarding life.

—how we define ourselves: self-concept, self-worth, self-perception

“Who am I?”

Identity is our understanding and perception of ourselves—who we believe we are at our core. It shapes our self-worth, self-concept, and interactions with the world. “Who am I?” lies at the heart of identity, influencing our choices, relationships, and aspirations. Our sense of identity forms the foundation for our actions and decisions. Our sense of purpose and confidence naturally develop from this place. When we have a strong and healthy identity, we are better equipped to face life’s challenges and pursue our goals. Ultimately, identity is how we view ourselves and the world around us.

—the relationship of son to father

“Who is my father—who do I belong to ?”

A father is more than a biological parent; he is a foundational figure who shapes his child’s sense of identity, security, and emotional well-being. The father-son relationship is a deep, covenant bond, not just a matter of position or authority, but of genuine connection and purpose. When a father is absent, it can disrupt a son’s understanding of himself and his role in the world, often leading to struggles with masculinity, self-worth, and forming healthy relationships. True sonship is about learning, growing, and receiving guidance from a father, which prepares a son to become a nurturing and wise father. This relationship is built over a lifetime through presence, mentorship, and love, not just by fulfilling duties. The quality of this bond can influence a son’s future relationships, emotional health, and parenting style. Ultimately, to understand what it means to be a good father, one must first become a good son.

—something transmitted by or received from an ancestor or predecessor or the past

“What will you leave behind?”

A legacy is the lasting impact or inheritance you leave behind for future generations, shaped by your actions, values, and choices. It’s more than material possessions; it encompasses the wisdom, principles, and character you pass on. By modeling integrity, kindness, and faith, you plant seeds in your children that can grow into strong, principled adults. Your legacy is reflected in how your children live, their decisions, and how they treat others. It is the sum of your influence, teachings, and the example you set—echoing long after you’re gone. A meaningful legacy is about preparing your children to thrive, equipping them with the tools and values to lead fulfilling, purposeful lives.