
You don’t know what you don’t know. And you won't know what’s required——until you get into the game.
Barry Edgemon
You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know—Until You get Into the game
No book, advice, or warning can truly prepare you for the realities of being a man, a husband, or a father. These roles are not destinations—they are lifelong journeys, filled with unexpected lessons and opportunities for growth. The truth is, you can’t fully grasp what’s required until you’re living it—day by day, moment by moment.
Being a Man
Manhood isn’t measured by age, status, or physical strength. It’s defined by the courage to take responsibility, to own your choices, and to keep growing—even when it’s uncomfortable. Real manhood is forged in the fires of adversity, shaped by humility, and proven by integrity. It’s about standing up for what’s right, even when it’s hard, and being the steady presence others can count on.
Being a Husband
Marriage is not a finish line; it’s a daily commitment to love, honor, and serve. It’s listening when you’d rather speak, giving when you feel empty, and loving not just in words, but in everyday, selfless actions. It’s about building trust, brick by brick, through patience, forgiveness, and unwavering support. True partnership means being willing to grow together, to weather storms, and to celebrate victories—side by side.
Being a Father
Fatherhood is more than providing for your family—it’s about being present, setting an example, and loving without conditions. It’s teaching, guiding, and sometimes simply listening. Your children will remember your actions far more than your advice. The way you handle challenges, show compassion, and pursue your own growth will shape their understanding of what it means to be strong, loving, and wise.
Here’s the Challenge—And the Invitation
You won’t have all the answers. You’ll stumble, and you’ll fall short. But every mistake is a lesson, every setback a chance to become better. The real question is:
Are you willing to step forward, to learn, and to become the man, husband, and father your loved ones need—even when you’re unsure?
Take a moment—right now—to reflect:
What kind of man do you want to be remembered as?
Is it someone who stood firm in his values, who loved fiercely, who never stopped growing?What legacy will you leave as a husband and a father?
Will your family remember you for your presence, your kindness, your unwavering support?Are you ready to embrace the unknown, to grow, and to lead by example?
Growth is not comfortable, but it is necessary. Leadership is not about perfection, but about persistence and heart.
BARRY EDGEMON
founder
Barry is the founder and president of FatherSeekers, an organization that mentors fatherless fathers to break the cycle of absence in the lives of their future generations.
A graduate of Southeastern University, he has been involved in full-time ministry for more than three decades, serving as a Youth Pastor, District Youth Director for the North Carolina Assemblies of God, and Senior Pastor.
Barry coaches and consults fatherless men in business, church ministry, and other walks of life and vocations. He is most proud of his sons, Luke, David, and Ben.
He and his wife, Heather, live in Green Bay, Wisconsin.
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